Better, step by step.
I am not a rules, not a you-must-do-this-and-now kind of a guy. I do not like it when people tell me what I have to do. You tell me a rule, tell me something I have to I do, and my back goes up. I become defensive immediately. I do not like being told what to do because 1) I am a capable adult with a mind of my own and will decide my own thoughts and actions, thank you very much; and, 2), I really do not have to do much. No one does. Not really. What I must do, what I must do to remain/ be alive, is to breathe. Pretty much everything beyond that is optional. There may be/ will likely be ramifications if I do not do certain things (like work, eat, bathe, dress, etc.); the ramifications, the resulting situations, of taking or not taking certain actions may not be acceptable to me or you. But I do not have to do them. Rather, I get to do them.
It is this taking control of one's actions, one's thoughts and actions, that are at the core of the better step by step series. As suggested by the title, the books have to do with practical steps I have taken, practical steps like thinking differently, more helpfully about situations, even bad ones, that have helped me in my life. That may help you in yours.
As I do not want you to tell me what I must do, I will also work to not tell you what to do. I have not always been successful in this, in the past; but I am getting better at it. Better at not telling people what I think/ believe they "should" do.
I am not a rules kind of guy; I am, however, very much a guidelines kind of guy. I like and think it wise to learn from others; to consider others' past experience. I have no need to reinvent the wheel, to do over, learn over what has been adequately or, more often, well learned in the past. Learning from others' experience, considering others' experience, can be a useful shortcut to a better life. A better life, a better Life, is what I am all about.
Do not tell me what to do; invite me into your experience so I can consider what might be the better thing for me to do. If you say to me, "I have tried this and found it works." If you tell me, "you may want to try doing this this way because...," invite me to consider: well then, it is a different story. I am happy to learn. To gain from you experience, recognizing the cost to me is much less than if I had gone out/ tried to go out and learn what you already know. Suggest to me instead of force me and I am much more likely to listen. To weigh.
What does my habitual emotional reaction at being told what to do have to do with the better step by step series of books? It lets you know I am not, cannot tell you how to live. You are an adult, or close on your way to becoming one. You have mental faculties which allow you to think. (I know you do because here you are, reading LukeyoutheU, not just looking at the pictures.) Which allow you to consider and to decide. I ask you to make decisions which are not only good for you but are good and loving toward others as well; but that is for you to decide.
better step by step is aimed for just that: presenting ideas and books, ideas on how to improve your life, how to live better for yourself and for the betterment of others.
better step by step will not tell you how to live. It, I, we will not tell you foolproof actions for a perfect life. Instead, I, we invite you to consider what we believe we have learned about life, about living better, that may benefit you.
Fog over the hills near Newbury Park, CA.